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Rambling on: how to face this....

Saturday, October 23, 2004

how to face this....

so my son asks his mom....mom what is a virgin....

she goes, son you are old enough to look it up in the dictionary.....after 5 minutes i hear him....but mum, it says something about impregnation....intercourse....

what is that, mom...she looks a little pale to me.....i think she is fearing that his questions are going to get more complex

impregnation does not clarify anything..he looks up intercourse and i hear him say"a female insect that lays its eggs without impregnation".....say what...what dictionary is that...right now it is too much fun to interupt him....i need to find out about these insects

and i need to prepare my 'birds and the bees' speech...before he starts impressing people with his latest findings about these magical insects.....

then he says as if to himself that virgin must have to do something with planes because he once saw the word written on a plane....thank you sir richard branson, you have bought me some time before my speech gets ready


16 Comments:

Blogger sidrah said...

haha - this is the nicest post ever =)

I once saw a Dr Phil special on what to/not to say for a birds and bees talk - this link might help: http://www.drphil.com/advice/advice.jhtml?contentId=par_raising_birdsandbees.xml§ion=Parenting&subsection=Raising%20Kids

Hai hai, I'm 18 and watch Dr Phil's take on how to discuss reproduction with children. I really must get a life :(

But while I do, here is another nicey nice link :)

http://www.drphil.com/advice/advice.jhtml?contentId=par_1047_sextalk.xml§ion=Parenting&subsection=Infants/Toddlers

1:19 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

sidrah...i think it is important the people of all ages should seek counselling or watch tv shows that have experts on...remember that we live in a conservative society which makes the role of the parent a lot more important plus you have to have a relationship of mutual confidence with the kids....in any case...thanks for sharing the links & thanks for dropping by.....

2:07 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

Can't you just tell him it means an unmarried person? Surely, the two words are synonymous in Pakistan at least?

3:46 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

yes (w)alter..despite changing lifestyles...one could safely assume that unmarried would mean virgin in pakistan...but you can never tell with kids these days...i suspect he knows what sex is all about but when a direct question is asked like what is a virgin or the more difficult ones about homosexuality...then i am stumped...this is what the problem is...

reminds me of a joke on the same lines that a kid walks into his parent's room who are doing it...so the next day he asks his mom what they were doing and mom goes well son...you dad has this skin condition down below and i was helping him put some medication on the thingie...and kid goes "ok....i thought you guys were having sex..."

i read somewhere that kids are hitting puberty at a much earlier age these days than say their parents...and attribute this to better nutrition or/and the media....it seems to be making sense to me...

and lastly boys will be boys...when they do talk and have a pretty good sense of the forbidden fruit

11:31 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

I'm glad you agreed with my assertion, was afraid of having yet one more illusion about Pakistan shattered.
You do have your work cut out for you. For some reason I had this idea that your son was really young and not quite into boyhood yet.You'are right on all points,early puberty and knowledge and media. I was at a friend's house over the weekend and got to watch some Indian TV, stunned at the amount of flesh shown and the provocative dance moves. And they said, oh this is nothing, usually they are half nekkid! And then there is Britney....
So good luck ( and thank God for Sex Ed in schools here)

4:23 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

he turns eleven in december...yes it does give me panic attacks with the way they are growing and parenting challenges we must face...but we would like to think is that we are progressive in our lifestyles and i should be able to explain to him about the facts of live in a lot more friendly manner...unlike the excruciating experience of my dad explaining things to me when i was his age...

i would like to think that i am a lot closer to my son than i was with my dad...something to do with generational gap and values and the traditional fear we had for our dads which is pretty uncommon these days....

my kids are forbidden to watch indian channels...what happened about 2 years ago is that the government banned all indian channels...this brought about new pakistan channels which are much more suited to our culture....

and i have to give my kids a lot of credit for respecting my decision and i can see that they do not enjoy indian channels when he visits their cousins who are, ofcourse, avid fans...

with so many channels on cable and indian channels not allowed, i notice that they just love to watch more educational channels and they also have all the freedom to watch as many kids channels to their hearts content....there are about 5 childrens channels....

how times have changed...i remember when we were young, we used to get 5 minutes of cartoons..now there are 5 channels for them to choose from.....Naveed

5:56 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

Well, nobody said parenting would be easy. Nothing that rewarding could be.I remember, a long time ago, having one in the stroller and trying to keep up with a toddler,one of my neighbors, who was Cuban, said they had a proverb "little children little problems, big children, big problems".So just when you think it is getting a little easier, they turn 16 and start driving. Talk about sleepless nights. I remember following my son to school every morning when he first started driving to make sure he got there safely.You are right, the parent/child relationships seem to be less formal and more open with our generation.And,it seems like you've done a great job so far - since he can come and ask these questions comfortably, and they are smart enough to enjoy good TV and know what is trash.

5:34 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

i am speechless....did you say you have a son who drives...i thought i was the older one in all this....you still talking about your cuban neighbour or yourself?...this is getting very interesting :) Naveed

6:12 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

har har
ROTFL
"Naveed made speechless" - has this ever happened before? I believe I may have achieved something rather impossible:)
"yeh din bhi dekhna tha"!
As for the Cuban lady, last I saw of her, she was in a weight loss commercial;)

3:11 AM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

ROFTL - Record of Federal Tax Liability? :) or something else...sorry am not updated on these slangs/anagrams...

what about the kid...yours or the cuban lady;s...you have not clarified...and Naveed confused and still speechless...:) Naveed going in circles...Naveed behaving like frankenstien and speaking like Tarzan...

are you saying a'la Micheal Jackson "but the kid is not my son" :) Eeeewww...now I have to cleanse myself since I have mentioned the king of pop

can you believe that there was a question on a re-run of jeopardy that I was wathing last night that "this thrilling singer said in an interview that there ought to be a children's day in the social calender"....not a fair question i thought...Naveed

10:28 AM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

Oh God, I haven't had this much fun in a looong time!
"ROFTL" - rolling on the floor laughing. If I weren't so polite I would have said "ROFTLMAO" which translates to rolling on the floor laughing my a** off!
So now Naveed is speechless, confused, going around in circles ,needs cleansing and speaks in third person about himself! All I can say is, Naveed is sure one big mess! And then Alex Trebek blows what little is left of his mind. BTW, before you get fully cleansed, get a load of the Eye spy this week and also the white clothed male model in the fashion shoot.
Of course I did not clarify, because I thought it would be fun to watch you stew for one more day.Little did you know you what a deviant mind you would be dealing with when you so kindly started to help out (w)alter ego (I just love my name).
Yes, he is my son, 19 and safely at college. He and I share love for Math and Incubus!My daughter is 21 and also at college.
I wonder why you thought you were older. I'm quite sure I mentioned in one of my comments to you that I am a lot older than you. But, I think, it was one of our usual conversations that become so tangential by the end...
But, 'kid Bro', I say carry on, the role of "Bazurg" just suits you so well. Me? I am the world's oldest teenager:)

4:04 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

Ah, I see I transposed ROTFL (as usual) ,confused you more than was necessary. Sorry about that.Can always pm me thru link on my profile.

9:14 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

you have certainly transposed me...i did take math in college so picture me doing mental cartwheeling :)

laughing at my expense...you sound like my colleague who has fun the whole day…he says I am like the energizer bunny….going on and on with my questions and wanting things measured, evaluated, responses known, outcomes determined...but i like it that way...i call it passion something that is important at work place...

yes I am a big mess indeed…it is the end of my financial year in a couple of days and I had had a major screwup with my forecasts for this week….so your comment has cheered me up like anything……

as for your being a proud father of a son and a daughter… this is simply brilliant…..fantastic…I have not been able to get rid of a smile from my face since this afternoon….

I thought I was the older one because every blogger that I see on the net is in their teens and twenties..yes since reading your comment I have been kicking myself for my presumptions now….:)

you kept mentioning bands that have a much younger listenership….then you mentioned a time-warp when I mentioned a 70’s track and this did not make sense to me either….it was either a case of someone genuinely listening to a variety of music or someone suffering from multiple personalities…..:) (albiet with atleast one personality liking my kind of music...:)

so there you go....aging uncles who are teenagers at heart....i say nothing has changed...infact talking to you will get mire interesting now to say the least...Naveed

10:12 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

Pretty good analysis of my personality , but you don't know the half of it!
glad I could make you smile.
Later...

9:13 PM  
Blogger Deevaan said...

peeling off the layers...one day at a time.......

10:47 PM  
Blogger (w)alter ego said...

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11:56 PM  

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